When you spend most of your time, money and emotions on something, you end up revering it above other things. Another word for this is “worship.” When we turn our worship to things other than God, what inevitably happens is we begin to believe that we are the deity of our own lives; deciding and controlling what we worship. (Worshipping ourselves and our own preferences — the things we are told will make us happy.) This self-focused side-effect impacts our relationship with our partner. It impacts the kindness we are supposed to be giving to each other, as outlined in Ephesians 4:32 (“Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.”) Kindness requires generosity. But relying on that simple definition will mislead us if our generosity (worshipping with our time, money and emotions) isn’t first absolutely centered on God.
Take turns talking out loud to God about each of the following:
- Spend some time talking to God about what you are worshipping. Admit it out loud to God, in front of your partner. Talk about where you spend your time, your money and where your emotions are tied up most.
- Ask God to start changing your heart to focus more on Him.
- As a result of focusing more on God, He helps us prioritize other important relationships. Ask God to help you focus more on your partner this year.
- Name your family members out loud and ask for God to help you invest well in them as well.
- Finally, ask for God’s help in determining your focus on other priorities. (Your home, your job, church family, and other hobbies and interests.)
Close your prayer time thanking God for everything you have and all of the opportunities in front of you. Then give your sweetie a big squeeze!