Oneness isn’t just a thing we pursue on big, romantic days. It’s a way of living where God is not only on your agenda, He’s a third party in your marriage. That means that every barrier you allow to exist between you and God is also an invisible and emotional barrier between you and your spouse. Our hope and prayer for you tonight is that you begin to understand that your relationship with God — strained or healthy as it may be — is actually at the center of everything … including your ability to be intimate with your significant other.
Practice a deeper intimacy with God and with your significant other by talking out loud to God together. Try the following prayer prompts:
- “God, I’m sorry for putting _____ before You.”
- “Please help me see and eliminate barriers that are preventing me from knowing and loving You and knowing and loving my spouse more fully.” Take a couple of minutes to sit in silence together and listen. Voice any barriers that God helps bring to your mind, even if they are difficult to admit.
- “How do I need to grow and change, God? Please help me.”
- “Thank You for allowing me to be with this person.”
If your significant other shared something vulnerable, please allow them the space they need to feel safe. Imagine if it were you who just shared that. How would you want your partner to respond to you? We recommend starting with a big hug. Don’t hesitate to reach out in the “Need some help?” section below. It’s always our privilege to walk alongside the two of you.